Have you been thinking about resolutions? I have.

I try not to but this year there seems to be many things that I want to work on and the list keeps getting longer. It's probably too long a list to share with everyone and if I narrow it down, I will post it later. There is one thing though that I have a lot of resolve to accomplish.

I want to rid myself of other peoples' drama.

Really, I have enough of my own.

Mostly this drama comes from misunderstandings but sometimes I think it is a careful and supposedly clever manipulation of people and their emotions by others.

We judge and are judged everyday by people. People may not admit that they make these judgments but we all do. And these opinions can sometimes cause misunderstandings. I, too, am guilty of having this happen. I am no different from others.

The thing is, I don't understand why, if people are having a problem with someone that they do not go to that person and talk about it. Communication is so important yet we avoid it because we do not want to face conflict.

I have a policy of my own honesty. If I feel something, I will tell someone about it. If the situation doesn't really make it onto my "radar", then it is a non-problem. That means that I don't make a big deal out of it because it isn't really that important.

I used to feel like I had to be everyone's friend. Now I feel that if I meet a person, and through trying to forge a friendship with them find that we are not compatible, then it is best to admit that this relationship isn't going to work for either party and not waste time on something that is at best superficial. I have no time for that. If a person wants to be my friend and is honest about it, then that's great. However, if they do not, I would rather there be no pretense and that we both move on.

I am who I am. So people can take it or leave it. I refuse to curb my way of being to please others.

I am guessing that there may be people out there reading this who think that this post is specifically about them. I want you to know that this is not a rant about any one person. Instead, it is a commentary on things I see everyday. You can be sure that if I have a problem with someone, I will tell them. To their face. If I do not, then there is no problem.

I just feel that there are far too many people out there pretending to be something that they are not. I have been guilty of this myself in past. Life is too short to pretend, or put your life on hold to make someone else happy.

And that leads into my final message: Communication is good!